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Make love, not Porn

I missed this short TED talk, because it was not pushed via the feed to subscribers, so I give credit to S****** for pointing a link to it out on Andrew Sullivan’s blog at The Atlantic [andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com].

Andrew adds a great quote:

Why would social ills decline as porn becomes more widely available? No one knows. But the one thing porn really causes is masturbation. Internet porn keeps men at home one-handing it. As a result, they’re not out in the world acting irresponsibly – or criminally.

Michael Castleman, in Does Pornography Cause Social Harm? [psychologytoday.com]
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Ritual interrupted

I’m off to Boston in a few hours. Not looking forward to 22+ hours in a plane plus stopovers and travel to and from the airports… Not fun. Cattle class. Not fun.

I am excited to be starting a new job. Looking forward to the people and the challenges. Time to stretch the brain and do something new and exciting.

But… As I put my daughter to bed tonight it really hit me that I won’t see her for 3 weeks. I think it will be hard on us both, and on my wife. I have cultivated a singularly bad habit in my girl: She falls asleep in daddy’s lap every night. I will miss this. It’s one of the best things in life. Even when I struggle with her, trying to get her to sit still and settle down so she can go to sleep. Even then it’s the highlight of the day. The interactions as she settles down — smiles, laughs, when she points something out to me. The warmth and love when she does finally curl up and drift off to sleep. How beautiful she is when she falls asleep. Even how cute she is when she snores.

It’s going to be a long three weeks. I think I will miss this bedtime ritual more than I’ve missed anything else in my life on the many times I’ve flown off. It’s different from the feeling of missing your significant other. I don’t know how to describe it, it’s just different, a different part of you that aches.

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A bug in my iPhone

I found a bug in my iPhone. Doesn’t bother me but drives my 20 month old daughter crazy…

I’ve seen this a couple of times, it seems to duplicate the ‘cover’ image for one video onto other videos. I haven’t seen a pattern in it yet. Doesn’t seem to matter if the video with the incorrect cover image has a cover image associated with it or not. Sometimes the cover images from TV shows or Podcasts are in the wrong place too. Most annoying for my daughter when she wants to watch WALL·E but clicks on The Last Lecture. She gets a bit upset after the third or fourth try.

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Beantown bound

I will be embarking on a new adventure soon. On May 1st I will begin employment with a new company based in Boston, and I will be relocating, with the family, to Boston two months later.

Going back to the US was always part of the plan — mine at least, maybe not the wife’s — but not so soon. However it was time to find a new job and the prospects in Singapore have been as exciting and numerous as authentic American sushi.

It’s a bad time I guess, it’s always a bad time in Singapore due to the ‘normal’ career path of engineers — let me just say that they don’t do much engineering for long — and the fact that most companies come to Singapore for cheap labor. So, unless you have ample experience in the banking sector it’s mostly cheap, entry level jobs. My best Singapore option was to run the technical operations of a certain cloud computing company… but they decided my lack of System Engineer experience was a non-solvable problem. C’est la vie, I want to program anyway, but management is the only real option for well paid techie jobs in S’pore.

So I widened my search to include other places in Asia. China offered a couple of interesting positions, but I could not get a house I was willing to keep my family in for what they want to pay a month. Unfortunately I am not a local and don’t live with my parents or 10 other guys. A real place to live most likely with gated access is required. And then there is private school. Too bad then, I would like to work in China now, I think it can only help long term. But no luck. Maybe next time.

I had a long shot for Taiwan, but that didn’t pan out either. Again, it would have been fun. People I’ve worked with before. Good people. Would have loved to work with them again. And I’ve had fun in Taipei so I’d be willing to go there.

Too many unemployed techies in Aus. Not even worth applying really.

Europe is out. I have a US passport, so no right to work anywhere in Europe. No company wants to take on the headache and paperwork.

So I spent a lot of time looking in the US. Got a couple of decent offers, a few what-the-fuck-happened disappearing HR people and lots of cold shoulder.

In the end Boston won. It’s a start-up with a lot of work in Mobile, so I can utilize the wealth of random industry info in my head, but at the same time they branch out in to some other related spaces I have less experience with that could offer a new challenge and learning opportunity. Location seems good, Boston is a decent tech town and seems to be a good place for a family. And, of course, most of all, the people seem good. Good as in a hard to find quality that I need to feel is there in people I work with—especially in a start-up situation. Hard working, smart, fun-loving. We’ll have to see about piercings, tattoos and blue hair (I’ve only see one guy, spoke to everyone else on the phone/email.)

So, the countdown to the big move has started. Plans are being formulated, evil plans devised and coup d’état’s plotted. It’s exiting and scary. Wish me luck… and wish my wife sanity… living in a foreign society for the first time is a mindfuck, from working professional to house-mom will be a big transition.

Now, last thing. Anyone want to buy a condo in Singapore? No? A car? Washing Machine? A sofa? Call me. Let’s discuss. Over kopi!

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An ode to long flights

An ode to long flights March 2010

Boarding in Singapore
Hurt locker... Check
Cold Souls... Check
Law Abiding Citizen... Check
Sleep... Is for the weak
Deplane
Starbucks in Dubai... Will you pay in local, euros, dollars or pounds?
The Taking of Pelham 1 2 3... Check
Sleep... I am weak
Welcome to Athens
Three day turn around... What to watch?

Yea, I just got back.